The misfortunes of a Hot Mess Runner

To say I haven’t been blogging much would be an understatement…to be fair I also haven’t been running much either. I’ll spare you the boredom of a drawn out, excuse ridden apology….Long story short, I’ve had other things in my life I’ve had to make a higher priority over the last year and sadly competitive running had to be moved to the back burner.  I plan to start picking things back up in a couple of months when things settle down.

Today was a beautiful day; I had some free time and a sudden surge of motivation so I decided to head to the C&O canal for a nice, easy run.  I parked my car at the Point of Rocks; threw my chap stick, key fob, and phone in my camel back, then started a slow trot down the leave covered trail. The first mile was clumsy and my joints felt like needed some WD-40. I made a conscious decision to be kind to myself and just enjoy the fact that I was outside in nature, and getting a little exercise.  After the first mile I settled into a rhythm and was bee-bopping along with my music. I started to daydream and was thinking to myself how beautiful everything was. I was like Bob Ross, “Oh what a happy little tree!” “What a happy little river!” “What a happy, blue, blue sky!!!”

But that didn’t last for long….About a mile and half into my run….my toe caught a rock, I went flying through the air, then I toppled and rolled into a huge pile of leaves. ..*KA-BOOM!!* I sat there, covered from head to toe with leaves, and pouted for a minute. I felt a dull throbbing in my left knee and began to tear up. I decided I’d like to spare my self the additional embarrassment of another runner finding me there, trying to rescue me, so I climbed to my feet and started running again. “Just go out one more mile, then you can turn around and run back to your car.”

I felt tears of frustration on my face as I gingerly jogged for another half mile, then started I started to feel good again, so I decided to run out a little bit further. (Isn’t that always how this story goes) At 3 miles I turned around to run back towards my car. I was feeling great so I opened it up a bit, and was happy that I was able to easily maintain a 8:30 pace  (given my current lack of fitness) all the way back to my car. I felt amazing, I was on top of the world, smiling ear to ear as I skipped to my car. I reached into my camel back pocket to pull out my key….”Oh. my. god. Where is my key?!?! Shit!!!!!” After several minutes of panicking, I have a flash back to  my roll in the leaves around mile 1.5….”Oh no!”

I open up the Garmin connect on my phone, and look for the sharp drop on my graph that would indicate a dead stop. I think it would be a great idea to walk back to that point on the trail and hope somehow miraculously, I would find my key fob buried somewhere in a 3 mile long sea of leaves. I ended up walking 2 miles back up the trail, and realized it what a not great but totally terrible idea that was. It was absolutely helpless. So I start walking back towards my car, making panicked phone calls to every friend and neighbor I could think of. I finally get a hold of somebody, my neighbor Kevin. “Oh thank god!” Then he tells me that he’s at the Penn State game (3 hours away). *Sad face* But he has a friend that he always calls on in emergencies, and he would see if he could come get me. I’m vaguely hopeful, but at this point resigned myself to walking the 8ish additional miles from my car back to my house. Trying to see the silver lining I tell myself, “At least I’ll get extra exercise today….”

About 10 minutes later Kevin calls back to tell me Malcolm is on his way.  I’m so freaking relieved! I get back to the parking lot, sit on a bench, and wait. That was when I realized that my knee is bleeding through my tights. A fellow runner seemed to sense my “damsel in distress” vibe, and comes over to ask me if I need any help. He’s wearing obscenely tight running tights, which make me a bit uncomfortable so I make sure I’m maintaining full eye contact as I assure him I’m fine, and help was on the way. He offers me a gu, runners are so funny! Again, I tell him I’m fine and he leaves. Then I begin to wonder if I was really talking to another runner, or just had a hallucination of David Bowie’s ghost….in runner form of course, because that is the only thing that could possibly make him any hotter…This thought makes me giggle. (You think I would have at least temporarily learned my lesson about day dreaming).

Finally Malcolm shows up, I’ve never met Malcolm before. I realize what a hot mess I must seem like; stranded in a parking lot, covered in leaves, with a blood soaked knee, and at this point shivering because I’m so cold.  I thank him as I climb into his car and we make small talk on the way back to my house. Of course, obligatory small talk comments on the weather are made….and I say “Oh yes, the weather is amazing! I hope it’s nice like this again tomorrow so I can go for another run!” Malcolm looks at me like I may be clinically insane. He may be right. 😉

 

Running, Zombies, and Poop

I’m in a not so rare random mood right now, so I apologize in advance for the free flowing thoughts! 😉 I just wrapped another training week with a long run on the C&O canal. Even though it was a bit chilly (Yay for Underarmour cold gear!), it was a gorgeously sunny day and not too windy! I ran my favorite route on the canal, running from Brunswick, MD to Harpers Ferry, WV and back. It’s not as far as it sounds, but something about running across state lines feels pretty cool! And the views are absolutely amazing!!!

A view from near my turn around point!

A view from near my turn around point!

Unfortunately, I ended up stuck late at work Thursday and Friday and lost my motivation to run by the time I got home.  Overall though, I got in some good quality runs and was happy with this weeks training. I can feel my endurance improving and feel myself slowly but surely getting stronger and faster! Here’s a quick run down of this weeks training:


Weekly Training summary:

  • Monday- Planned Rest
  • Tuesday-7 miles with 10×400 repeats.
  • Wednesday- 5 miles + 20 minute TRX work-out
  • Thursday- Unplanned Rest
  • Friday- Unplanned rest + “Eff it dinner out with wine!!”
  • Saturday-8 miles
  • Sunday-12 miles
  • Total Weekly Distance: 32 miles
  • Total 2015 Distance: 222.57 miles
This was me today! I was so Rungry!!! ;-)

This was me today! I was so Rungry!!! 😉


 

My biggest training challenge this week, other than missing two of my planned runs, is learning how to eat while running again! Today’s run was my first run long enough to need fuel in a long time. I took water with Nuun and Honey Stinger fruit punch chews with me in my fuel belt. At mile 4 I tried to eat my first few chews, and it was disastrous! I fumbled trying to get the chews out of my belt…dropped half of them on the ground…tripped over my own foot…stumbled to regain my footing…bit my lip in the process…then drooled gooey chew drool on the from of my shirt! Good one Betty! I’m soooooo graceful! 😉 Lol

A few other things I’ve been obsessed with this week…

  • The Walking Dead!!! I’m so excited to watch the season finale tonight! I binge watched a few episodes this morning/early afternoon, then totally entered this apocalypse day dream during my run, imagining myself trying to escape from zombies! I was thinking, my running friends and me would totally survive a zombie apocalypse! (Yep…these are the things I think about when running for long periods of time! Hahaha) Then when I got home, I saw this…
Too perfect!!!

Too perfect!!!

  • Poop– I have no idea why, lets just say this has been a weird week! A co-worker just recently bought a “squaty potty” and it’s been an entertaining topic of conversation around the cubicles! Then I saw this article in Runner’s World, How to make yourself poop. I’m not going to lie, I’m so happy Runner’s World wrote this article…this is absolutely legit! Nothing will destroy a race day for me like not being able to go #2 before a race! And for those of you who are judging me right now….maybe you should check out this children’s book…

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  • A new lunch box favorite!! I made myself a hummus, tofu, avocado, and veggie wrap for lunch every day last week! Not only was it super easy to throw together and pack in my lunch box, it was soooo freaking delicious!! While I’m not 100% vegetarian, I do eat and enjoy veg-head foods a lot!
Disclaimer: This is NOT my actual lunch!

Disclaimer: This is NOT my actual lunch!

  • Coconut Oil Hair Mask: Last Sunday Ilana and I did “mini-makeovers” and tried out a new home-made deep conditioning mask on our hair. Recipe: 1 tbsn coconut oil, 5 drops lavender essential oil, 5 drops essential oil rosemary oil. We both coated our hair, let it sit for about an hour, then washed our hair with sulfate-free shampoo (with a couple of drops of lemon essential oil to keep the hair from getting too greasy). While I was letting my hair sit, I did a avocado face mask too, which Ilana always finds hilarious! The oils were samples from a friend who sales Young Living oils (Similar to Doterra). Honestly, I didn’t notice a huge difference in my hair…it was a little softer and a little easier to comb through. But it was a miracle on Ilana’s curly locks! I plan on using this deep conditioning mask on her at least twice a month!

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So that wraps up my weekly randomness! I’m ready to grill up some veggie burgers, crack open a bottle of wine, and watch some zombies with my lovie! Hope y’all had a fantastic and random week too!!

Have you ever had any mishaps trying to eat and run at the same time? Do you ever day dream about zombies during your runs? LOL How do you feel about coconut oil and essential oils? What are some of the things you use them for?

Betty

Throwback Thursday-A Fitness Timeline!

It’s no big secret…I’m obsessed with running but that hasn’t always been the case! I HAVE always enjoyed working out but have a strange combination of exercise ADHD and OCD. I go through phases where I’m really into a certain work-out and treat it like it’s my religion, then one day I am decide I’m bored and over it.  (Unfortunately that trait carries over into other areas of my life, but I’m not going to go there! At least not right now…)  Running is the one form of exercise that has just stuck with me….I like that it doesn’t (in theory) require a lot of thought, planning, or gear and it’s the best form of meditation/stress-relief/therapy I’ve ever found!

I was thinking about all of my past fitness phases, and in honor of “Throw Back Thursday”, I thought it would be fun to throw together a timeline of my past fitness obsessions! I’ll admit, some of them are pretty silly…but try to laugh with me, not at me! 😉

  • 1994-1999 (High School Years): Swimming and Water Polo

I loved swimming, even though practices were 3 hours day. Did not love water polo, but my coach didn’t make it optional for his swimmers and it was great conditioning!

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  • 1999-2001 (College Years) Taebo, Crunch Fitness, and Belly Dancing Tapes

Yes, tapes….as in VHS! 😉 Being a “starving” college student, juggling classes and multiple jobs, I had little free time and even less money for a gym membership. So I resorted to doing work-out tapes in the small basement apartment I rented. I did the 30 min crunch work-outs when I was pressed for time, the belly dancing work-outs when my roommate wouldn’t see me, and I LOVED me some Billy Blanks!! 😉

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  • 2001-2003 (College Years Part 2) Spinning and Weight Training

I took a weight training class for a couple of semesters in college (to meet PE requirements) and became obsessed with lifting! I honestly don’t remember how the Spinning part happened, but somehow I ended up at 5 am Spin class every day. I HATE mornings….but I loved spinning my legs really, really fast (or so I thought), on a stationary bike, in a sweaty room, with a black light and techno music!

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  • 2003-2007 (Military Years) Air Force PT and PT Test

Yeah, yeah, yeah….my veteran buddies from other branches will say, “Air Force PT” is an Oxymoron.  It was pretty much focused on meeting weight standards and passing annual PT test (1.5 mile run, push-ups, sit-ups). I NEVER got over my hate/hate relationship with push-ups. Having to run in formation was ALMOST enough to make me love running a little less. The one time I got to “pace” a formation run, I was fired within .25 miles for running “too fast” and running too “zig-zaggy”. *Sad face*

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  • 2007-2008 (Fitness Rebellion Year) Kickball and Dodge Ball

After my separation from the military, I relished my freedom and NOT having someone tell me I HAD to do PT. No one telling me I had to do push-ups and run in “non-zig-zaggy” lines! So I went through a short-lived fitness rebellion where I did no serious exercise. But I DID play on intramural kickball and dodge ball teams…AKA…drinking leagues!! Woo hoo, doing what I want!!!!

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  • 2008-2009 (Come Back Year Part 1) Beach Body/P90X

After a year of “doing what I want”, I decided I was getting a little too old to “rage against the machine”…and I was tired of feeling like an unhealthy slug…so I tried to get back on track. I ordered P90X DVDs, and followed the program/schedule to the letter. (Minus the diet, because I don’t do well on diets!) The first few weeks every part of my body hurt. I didn’t loose much weight (not enough cardio) but I did get noticeably more toned.  And loved the active bonding time with my sister when she came over to P90x it up with me at my apartment!

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  • ??? (The Fuzzy Math Years) Other Random Fitness/Sports Phases 

There are a lot of other work-outs/sports/fitness activities that I’ve gotten into over the years…but they either didn’t quite stuck or been very sporadic. That includes; Pilates, Yoga, Mountain Biking, Hiking, Kayaking, horse back riding,skiing, snowboarding,TRX, strip aerobics, and rock climbing. Honestly, I feel in love with rock climbing, and found it to be perfect compliment to my running, so hoping to start climbing again in April!

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  • 2009 (The Hook) My first half marathon!

In 2009 I ran my first race ever, the Baltimore Half Marathon, and was instantly hooked. I was officially addicted to running from that point forward!

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What about y’all? Have you tried any of the same work-outs? What are some of your favorite “retro” fitness routines or blasts from the past? 

Betty

 

 

 

 

Love, Big Ambitions, and Crazy Ideas

Growing up I always had my nose in a book and my head in the clouds. I could entertain myself for hours laying in the grass or sitting in a tree, facinated by everything around me and imagining my little heart out! Every teacher, every year, every report card had the same comment….something to the effect of, “Very bright student, but daydreams too much.”  Looking back I totally disagree, there is no such thing as day dreaming too much! Dreaming generates crazy ideas, which drive big ambitions, that set into motion incredible actions, which redefine what is possible!

Idealistic? Absolutely! The beautiful thing is, I’m over the moon for a man who has as many big ambitions and crazy ideas as I do. Seriously, some of our dreams are really out there! We spend hours talking and laughing about our crazy ideas! We’ve brought life to some of our dreams all ready, and have many more fantastic dreams queued up!  I wanted to share some of our latest crazy ideas because I thought you might find them as entertaining as we do! (We really want to do some of these things, other things we just find hillirious to imagine and talk about!)


 

D&K’s List of Crazy Ideas:

  • Own and run a Bed and Breakfast.

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  • Hike the Appalachian Trail.

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  • Ride a train across the US.

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  • Spend a few years working and living overseas somewhere.

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  • Become beekeepers and keep bees in our yard.

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  • Start an indoor, hydroponic vegetable garden.

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  • Retire and live in an RV, traveling the country.

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  • Find a loophole, and get approved to have service dogs at our current jobs.

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  • Have a mini-farm with pet goats and a chicken coop.

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  • Run an exercise boot camp!

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  • Climb to the top of Kilimanjaro together.

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  • Become cross country, big-rig, truck drivers.

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  • Build an indoor rock climbing wall inside our garage.

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  • Install a fireman pole to slide from the 2nd floor bedroom into the living room. (OK, this ones all me! Lol)
But maybe THIS can convince him?! ;-)

But maybe THIS can convince him?! 😉

  • Farm ginseng.

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  • Build giant (Think Avatar style!!) his and hers tree houses.

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  • Learn American Sign Language, and work as ASL interpreters.

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  • Create an outdoor Zen garden.

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  • Become professional lumberjacks

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What do you think? What are some of your big ambitions and crazy ideas? Do you think there is a difference?

 

Why my 30s have been the best decade so far!

Last week I celebrated my 34th birthday, which means I am officially in my mid-30s! I remember hearing something about how you’re never supposed to ask a lady about her age or her weight but I’ve never had a problem talking about either….because both are just a number and that number is totally relative.  Do I feel young? Do I feel healthy? Absolutely! And now that I feel like I have “broken in my 30s”, I can honestly say that my 30s are shaping up to be the best decade so far! Something happened when I turned 30….I learned that there is no such thing as grown ups, we all are just winging it! I realized that despite many missteps, somehow my life had ended up in a pretty good place and I had this sudden, new found confidence and comfort in my own skin.  Part of me wishes I could go back and tell the 20 something me a thing or two, but then I wouldn’t be who I am or where I am today. No regrets about my past, even when I’ve made “catastrophic” mistakes, had my heart broken or broken hearts, was insecure, thought I was fat, cried too much, did too many tequila shots….it was all a learning experience and that is what our 20s are for!

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So….what is it that makes being in my 30s so awesome??

  • Being comfortable in my own skin, including being o.k. with my not so cool dance moves! I know I mentioned this one before, but it’s worth being redundant because confidence really is the BEST thing about being in my 30s!!
Play that funky music! 32 in Vegas!

Play that funky music! 32 in Vegas!

  • Understanding and appreciating that being a mommy is the single most important thing that I am going to do with my life! I found out I was preggers with Lana just a few days before my 23rd birthday and to be honest I was TERRIFIED! Raising a mini-me isn’t always easy, but it’s always been worth it!
Real Happiness! I'm 31 and Lana is 6 in this picture.

Real Happiness! I’m 31 and Lana is 6 in this picture.

  • Reaching a point in my life that I know what matters and what I want out of a relationship, which allowed me to connect with my second life love (aside from Lana). Danny makes me happy and makes me laugh every single day!
Being silly at my friend's wedding. (32)

Being silly at my friend’s wedding. (32)

  • Having great girlfriends and remembering to make time for them! Life experience has taught me…don’t get so wrapped up in a “boyfriend” that you neglect other relationships and NEVER trust a girl that doesn’t have a single girlfriend.
Reunited after a long work trip. Enjoying time with the girls at 31.

Reunited after a long work trip. Enjoying time with the girls at 31.

  • Reaching a point in my career that I have the time and can afford to travel (some). One of my bucket list items is to see as many places in this world as possible!

 

Temple in Japan.

Temple in Japan.

  • Learning to appreciate art and other things of beauty. It seems like most of my free time in my 20s was spent in clubs/bars/at parties….in my 30s I realized there is so much more to life!
Chihuly exhibit at VMFA in Richmond VA.

Chihuly exhibit at VMFA in Richmond VA

  • Having the courage to be bold and express my own unique style! I’ve literally had my hair dyed every possible color in my 30s and have tossed the high heels and spandex tops in favor for flip flops and retro t-shirts!
Bright red hair, Beatles T-Shirt, and Pink 80s sunglasses! Because I can! ;-)

Bright red hair, Beatles T-Shirt, and Pink 80s sunglasses! Because I can! 😉

 

  • Learning how to take care of my body and being in the best shape of my life. Since turning 30 I’ve paid more attention to eating well, limiting alcohol, exercising, and have done lots of running. I feel like my endurance and fitness are peaking in my 30s, thanks to treating my body a little kinder!
Baltimore 10 miler at 32.

Baltimore 10 miler at 32.

 

Anyone else in their 30s feel the same way? What has been your favorite decade so far? And why?


While I know it’s totally random, I’m going to throw my training log for last week in here because it was overall uneventful, and definitely does not warrant a full post. I’m continuing to increase my mileage and focus on stretching/cross training and still feeling good/pain free. Also a little bored not having a race to help guide my training and keep me focused so I’ve started looking at 2015 races and will be updating “My Races” section of my blog soon!

  • Monday: Run 3 miles/Stretching
  • Tuesday: Rest
  • Wednesday: Rest
  • Thursday: Run 3 miles/stretching
  • Friday: Run 3 miles/stretching
  • Saturday: 20 minutes stairmill, 3 mile run, 30 minutes weight training (Full Body)/Stretching
  • Sunday: 45 minutes spinner/bike, 50 minute Power Yoga

Total Weekly Miles: 12

Total 2015 Miles: 21

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1st snow day of the year and 2015 miles in 2015

We got our first snow of the year today in Maryland! I ended up staying home from work because I was snowed in, and after watching the traffic reports I am SO glad that I am not out on the roads! Yikes! I’ve been enjoying my unplanned day off…I got in a good work-out this morning and am staying warm snuggled up on the couch with my fuzzy leopard and hot pink slippers, leggings, and a delicious cup of French vanilla coffee! 🙂

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Snow days can be fun, as long as we don’t have as many as we did last year! I felt like I spent half the winter at home between work and school closures! I took advantage of the extra free time by registering for a 2015 challenge/virtual race, “2015 Miles in 2015“! Since I know I’m not going to be able to run that many miles solo I signed up as a team with Danny and Ilana and invited a few other friends to join in on the fun! My team name is Mojo JoJo, a tribute to one of my favorite childhood cartoons, “The Powder Puff Girls”, and because 2015 is all about getting my Mojo back! (Not to mention, I think saying “Mojo Jojo” is funny!)

Mojo JoJo!!!

Mojo JoJo!!!

It really doesn’t take much to amuse me! 😉 Is anyone else doing this challenge or another fitness related challenge this year? How does participating in challenges help motivate you?

 

 

The Reality of Being an “Independent Woman”

I remember Destiny’s Child releasing their song “Independent Women” my senior year of high school.  Man, that song made being an independent woman look AWESOME! You get hang out with your best girlfriends showing off all your sweet “sassy pants” dance moves! Of course you look perfectly put together; wearing designer clothes and diamonds, with flawless make-up,  and not a hair out of place! You ALWAYS felt 100% confident in your ability to take on the world!  Oh, wait!?!? What? AND you’re fire proof! [@2:56] Hell yeah!!! An “Independent Woman” has it all and she doesn’t need anybody!

I like to think of myself as an “independent woman”.  I have an education, a job, my own house, pay my own bills…yadda, yadda….For the most part, it’s something I take a lot of pride in, and it has it’s perks…like not having someone to stop you from painting your kitchen lime green or telling you that spending $150.00 to get your hair done is ridiculous…but let me tell you, it’s NOT all rainbows and butterflies!

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There are a lot of major details missing in Destiny Child’s [and the media’s] picture of an independent woman.  This video needs to show Beyonce  watching a YouTube video, while trying to fix a leak under the kitchen sink, knocking a hose loose, having water spray everywhere…then throwing a temper tantrum that includes throwing a wrench across the room and lots of profanities…Wow, that sounded pretty specific, huh? Umm, not that that ever happened to me or anything….*Hey, look over there! She knows Kung Fu!! [@2:22]* My experiences as a single, “independent” woman have been much more like something out of an episode of “I Love Lucy” than a Beyonce music video. *I ❤ Lucy!!*

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Why is it that women, regardless of where they are in their lives, are expected to be perfect? Super mommies, top of the career ladder, great cooks, spotless homes, perfect bodies, beautiful, and always poised with a smile on our faces.  The sad thing is, so many of us buy into all that hype! We drive ourselves crazy and beat ourselves up trying to achieve some ridiculously unrealistic ideal.  To set the record straight, here are some myths versus realities about being an independent woman…

Myth: Independent women make their own money, and have plenty of cash to spend on clothes, getting their hair and nails done, exotic vacations, fancy cars, jewelry, and diamonds.

Reality: Seriously, what person on a single income has money to buy random diamonds? Yes, I make my own money and most of it goes to pay my mortgage, utilities, car payment (For a VW Golf), insurance, groceries, gas, home repairs, and stuff for my daughter.  I rarely have money to spend on myself and when I do…I shop at Target and thrift shops.  *I got $20 in my pocket!!*

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Myth: Independent women are always stylish, put together, and they style their hair and put on make-up every.single. day.

Reality: I look totally put together….like twice a year…maybe? By the time I squeeze in my morning work-out, I barely have time to shower and throw on clothes before work.  I don’t wear make-up, put my hair in a pony tail, and usually am wearing some combination of jeans, t-shirts, and flats (No socks, because seriously, who time to make sorting socks a priority?).  On the positive end of the spectrum some of my go to looks include; Somewhat presentable, Casual Free spirit, Almost Mentally Present, and I don’t really care what anyone thinks. It only goes downhill from there with some of my go to looks including; Totally Disheveled, Hot Mess, Frazzled Mama, I may have forgot to brush my hair/teeth and put on deodorant, and Zombie Chick.  That last look actually kind of works with Walking Dead being back on T.V. and Halloween being right around the corner! *Mmmmm, Brains!!*

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Myth: Independent women have plenty of time to hang out with their girlfriends and they spend all their nights partying at the swankest bars/dance clubs, laughing and gossiping while sipping on $20.00 Cosmopolitans. (Thanks Sex and the City for getting my hopes up on that one!!)

Reality: Since finishing high school and becoming an adult, I’ve discovered that free time is sparse.  Up until recently, most of my nights and weekends were spent taking classes, studying, and working part time jobs.  Now, my days are still pretty much crammed full from 6am-8pm…then the last thing I want to do is go out and be a socialite. At the end of a long day, nothing sounds more glorious and wonderful than a nap in my flannel P.J.s!

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Myth: Independent women have fabulously trendy, modern, spotless, perfectly decorated apartments that look like they are straight out of a Crate and Barrel or IKEA catalog.

Reality: My house looks more like a  helpless “before” pad from the series “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy”. I spend about 15 minutes a day cleaning…and by “cleaning” I mean shuffling my messes from one room to another.  I don’t think I’ve EVER had every room in my house clean at the same time.  I also don’t have the time, energy, or desire to spend my weekends shopping for cute accent furniture and nick-nacks…nor do I want to blow my limited spending cash on stuff I don’t need! (I only spend money on necessities like running shoes, race entries, and coffee mugs! Duh!)

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Myth: Independent women are always strong, confident, and 100% in control of every aspect of their lives.  And of course, they NEVER doubt themselves.

Reality: I have had days, weeks, months that have been a whirlwind and I’ve wondered how I am going to keep everything together.  I’ve doubted myself, I’ve made mistakes (many, many mistakes…I could have been the Queen of Bad Decisions at one point in my life), I’ve had melt-downs….but I pick myself up, keep moving, and somehow things work out.  And I am thankful for my failures! Failing and overcoming those failures is what has made me a more confident (Note: I did not say I’m always confident) woman…knowing I can overcome pretty much anything life throws at me!

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Myth: Independent women don’t need ANYTHING from ANYBODY! They can handle ALL their business, 100% on their own!

Reality: I used to believe this, I was prideful to a fault.  However, I finally learned the importance of having a solid support network, made up of wonderful family and friends….I learned to ask for help when I need it.  I also learned to accept and appreciate having someone help me with things that I technically COULD handle on my own…because having someone to lighten my load is awesome! *Like when I found out my boyfriend LOVES to do yard work! Score!! Because I HATE it!! And I love my handsome Gardner!! 😉 *

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Finally, here is a list of 10 things every REAL independent woman needs:

  1. A sense of humor
  2. Creativity
  3. A budget
  4. An emergency savings account
  5. A good home warranty (Best advice anyone has EVER given me, mines saved my life!)
  6. Wiki How and YouTube (You’d be amazed at what you can figure out using the Interwebz)
  7. A few basic tools; Power Drill, Screw Drivers, Allen Wrench Set, and for when all else fails…duct tape *Cause eff it!!*
  8. A trustworthy mechanic
  9. An outlet to blow off stress and clear your mind (For me it’s running and recently playing my guitar)
  10. Family and Good Friends (No woman is an Island!)

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What are your thoughts? Do you think the media portrays a realistic image of an “independent woman”? What do you think is missing? What advice do you have for all the independent ladies out there??  🙂

~Betty